Tuesday, June 12, 2012

DOUBLE STANDARDS!!!



Krish & Sri got promoted.  Sri thought,  ““ I deserve this, actually  it was long over due”, as for Krish, he got it because of his boss pleasing tactics”

At the society’s meeting, Anup and Sharma decided to contest for the post of Secretary.  In Sharma’s thoughts “ I have a passion to  serve our society for the betterment of our colony & Anup is for the importance of the position and may be to get some personal benefits.”

Lata to Reema: “My son is studious and knows his subject well, Payal’s son  he’s a mere book worm and relies on rote”

“I buy only what is needed. My hubby is also strict..Rekhas is a compulsive buyer , her hubby is henpecked”

We live in a world full of double standards! where we accept different yardsticks for different people often based on gender, religion, wealth, color of skin, nationality etc.

Why is that what applies to others does not apply to me and vice versa? We see it everywhere and in everyone, be it schools, offices or public places.

Many of us have a tendency to be judgmental of others. It is like if we are in similar situations, we paint a different picture. A more sympathetic one of ourselves and “ serves them right” picture  for others.

Why do he have double standards ? But our society is ridden with double standards, for e.g. “A man  can order  around and he is treated like someone who is in charge and a leader. But when a woman communicates in the exact same way, she’s immediately labeled assertive, dominating, aggressive.”  I fail to understand why in earlier times,  boys got a better education that girls,  when  girls are better at academics and work?

I also wonder why celebrities are treated on a different standard than a commoner, be it at a place of worship, airports, criminal acts and so on. Even justice is delayed or fast depending on your being a celebrity.
 


Double standard is widely prevalent in the case of women, be it in wages paid for the same work, glass ceilings in offices, selection of women for certain positions, renting houses and ever so many areas

Having a double standard is a negative trait, These situations of double standards arise when we are devoid of sincerity in words and action and fail to see the right perspective. For this you need empathy, and selflessness.   Double standards  differ from hypocrisy , former  is a rule or principle unfairly applied to different ways to different groups in a similar situation, while the latter is when your actions differ from your words

Double standards cause confusion and are unjust. To me having double standards means we are self centred , have a mean mentality and different yardsticks of measurement.

16 comments:

  1. you are right, we shouldnt have double standards, but so many times we have it and even dont know it..

    The otherday a girl was very vociferous about equality but when a prospective groom for her wanted to study further after marriage with her earnings, she denied it, whereas its common for girls to do so with hubby's income.

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    1. So true Renu, we have it and still dont realise. Thanks.

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  2. I liked the example Renu has given which highlights tellingly what double standard is all about.While individually double standards may be accepted as a human failing,institutions that are bound by rules and laws should never condone double standards.The rules should be applied impartially with no room for discretion.But it is a pity that such different treatments persist and the commonman is helpless
    A thought provoking post,Krupa.

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    1. Thanks KP, Fully agree when u say institutions cannot have double standards.

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  3. Well said, Krupaa. These double standards go over the roof only in India. Look at the respect celebs get. Commoners are treated like trash:( Agree with Renu. I too have known of women who have such double standards...

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  5. good one yar..baapre struggling to post a comment here:) wishes

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  6. Wow Thats amazing read....Thoughtful Krupa....I have posted part 5 of short story series....Thanks:)

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  7. Such a beautiful post and such truth.

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  8. So paradoxical, isnt it?

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  9. krupaaji return to this beautiful blog cheers n wishes

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  10. Thoughtful musings, Krupaa. A lot to think about there. Keep on writing and posting questions some people may not want to be asking themselves.

    Have a lovely day. Blessings!

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  11. No post long time.. why?

    Happy New Year.
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